April Book Club & Audio Takeways
In 2015, this book changed the course of my life. I read this book as part of my first coaching course and two years later I can tell you that reading it was the reason I closed my store, sold my truck and followed my heart to a new journey down teaching and consulting.
Now, are you going to decide to completely change your path? Who knows. But what you will do from this book is stop being BUSY all the time, realize that being sick is merely a form of "Upper Limit" and commit to living in your "Zone of Genius".
I love that this book is a quick read and talks about family paradigm and going for your dreams without hesitation. Commit to reading this book and I promise after, you will be telling everyone you know that they must read it too!
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My Favorite Quotes from The Big Leap
There wasn’t a class in elementary school or college called “How to Tolerate Longer Periods of Success and Good Feeling.”
Your capacity expands in small increments each time you consciously let yourself enjoy the money you have, the love you feel, and the creativity you are expressing in the world. As that capacity for enjoyment expands, so does your financial abundance, the love you feel, and the creativity you express.
Behind every communication problem is a sweaty ten-minute conversation you don’t want to have. However, the moment you work up the courage to have it, you collect an instant reward in relief as well as open up a flow of communication that will allow you to resolve the situation.
Worrying is usually a sign that we’re Upper-Limiting. It is usually not a sign that we’re thinking about something useful. The crucial sign that we’re worrying unnecessarily is when we’re worrying about something we have no control over. Worrying is useful only if it concerns a topic we can actually do something about, and if it leads to our taking positive action right away.
In other words, when you find yourself worrying, know that there is something positive trying to break through. Your worry-thoughts, particularly if you find yourself recycling the same ones over and over, are a flag waving at you from your Zone of Genius. Something is trying to get your attention. Look beyond the worry-thoughts, and you will often find a new direction that’s being laid out for you.
When people step out of the victim position and take 100 percent responsibility, their marriages and their businesses flourish.
If you can pull up memories of some of your illnesses and accidents, ask yourself if they came during or just after a big win in business or a period of good times in a relationship.
So many of us simply never look at the effect of our minds and emotions on our physical health. But the payoff for doing so is well worth it.
Slow down, stop what you’re doing, and pay attention, because there’s something out of integrity here.
Sometimes the positive message is a message we’re afraid to hear, such as “It’s time to quit my job and do something else.”
ask yourself if you might be Upper-Limiting. Sometimes a headache’s just a headache, but often if you look a little deeper you’ll find that it’s an expression of your Upper Limit Problem. Then, it’s a signal that you need to expand instead of contract. It’s telling you that it’s time to open up and embrace a new high-water mark of positive energy that’s trying to establish itself in you.
The good news is that the fear and uncertainty last only as long as it takes us to hear the underlying positive message and begin to act on it.
The first place to look is in the subtle ways we lie to ourselves in order to conceal feelings we do not want to accept consciously.
Would you be willing to consider that your conflict is not about what you think it’s about?
if I could consider, even for a moment, that I was not upset for the reason I thought I was, I could break out of the trance I was in.
Under the surface of most conflicts, you’ll find that the warring parties are actually feeling the same deeper emotions.
Whatever your story is, the first task is to find it. Identify your family story of why you shouldn’t access your genius.
Once you’ve identified it, the next task is to lose your fascination with it. Don’t give yourself a hard time for being fascinated with it; you were born into it just like the rest of us.
Just become more fascinated with the story of your Big Leap into the Zone of Genius. Gradually this new fascination with genius will replace the unconscious fascination with the old programmed story.
In other words, being lighthearted about noticing your Upper Limit behaviors will help you make progress faster than if you criticize yourself for every little thing. When I maintain an attitude of cheerful wonder and keen interest toward my faults and flaws, I see them dissolve and transform much more rapidly than when I give myself a hard time about them.
If you’re willing to adopt a playful attitude toward yourself and your shortcomings, you can make extraordinarily rapid progress. It’s easier to chuckle over things than to fret over them, and chuckling is much more fun for the people around you.
What is my unique ability? (There’s a special skill I’m gifted with. This unique ability, fully realized and put to work, can provide enormous benefits to me and any organization I serve.)
Discovering your Zone of Genius is your life’s Big Leap. Everything up until now has been about hops, not leaps.
What if I really opened up to my true genius and found that my genius wasn’t good enough?
I won’t try to talk you out of them, and you shouldn’t try to talk yourself out of them, either. Just notice the voices and feel the fears. That’s all you need to do with them. You don’t need to rid yourself of them. Where would they go, anyway? All you need to do is acknowledge them, wave to them, let them know you’re aware of them.
If you will make a powerful, sincere commitment—a vow that you really want to live your life in the Zone of Genius—your journey will be blessed with uncommon good fortune at all the twists and turns of the road. Commitment has that power.
I commit to living in my Zone of Genius, now and forever.
Don’t hold yourself back to keep your sisters from feeling jealous. Go all the way, and inspire them with your full expression. You can’t manage their feelings. Their feelings are their business. They’d probably be just as jealous if you bought a new refrigerator, so you might as well go all the way and write a few best sellers.
I expand in abundance, success, and love every day, as I inspire those around me to do the same.
You’re where time comes from.
Once you’re convinced, start acting as if it’s true. A simple way to begin is to put yourself on a radical diet: complete abstinence from complaining about time.
First, time is not something you have or don’t have. You’re the source of it, and you make as much of it as you want. Second, when you say, “I don’t have time to do that right now,” you’re telling a polite lie to avoid saying, “I don’t want to do that right now.” By placing the blame on time, you avoid confronting the blunt truth of the matter.
Relationship is the ultimate spiritual path, because it constantly presents us with the challenge to love and embrace in the very situations in which we’re most prone to shun and reject. For that reason above all, relationship is the place where our spirituality most visibly comes to light.
You can tell more about a person’s true spirituality from the way he or she treats his or her partner than you ever could from tallying that person’s church attendance.
We approach each moment with an open mind and a willing heart.
The Upper Limit Problem is our universal human tendency to sabotage ourselves when we have exceeded the artificial upper limit we have placed on ourselves.
that business is ultimately a spiritual path.