Have you ever arrived in a country where not only do you not speak the local language, but you land at the airport with no idea how to get where you are going?
We did this on Wednesday. We arrived to Vienna, Austria around noon local time, having not slept for over 18 hours. I speak about 2 words of German that I learned from watching "The Sound of Music" a zillion times. But honestly, Rick Steves said everyone here speaks English (and they do!).
As we walked off the plane, a woman said, "excuse me?!" and asked me where baggage claim was... I looked at her confused. Like, did I look like I knew?! No I don't know, I told her. But, maybe we should just follow that symbol on the sign with the suitcase on it?!
You see, as much as I had never been to this airport, I understand the lay of the land when it comes to signage and using past knowledge to get my way around anywhere.
We looked up the hotel and quickly figured out which subway stop we needed to take to get there. Again, this would freak many people out, but when you know how to ride a train, you just use Google Maps and your past knowledge to get where you need to go. No use in getting scared.
Cut to my fabulous Facebook Group, The Fashion Truck Tribe. Recently we asked the group "What's your biggest fear?"
So many women said they were scared to fail, not have customers or run out of money. And I see that as an opportunity to make a massive mindset shift.
How can you transform your fear into confidence?
- What if you succeeded?
- What if you had so many customers you often felt overwhelmed?
- What if you made more money than you ever expected?
In today's culture, we're so easily triggered by fear. But what if we noticed the fear and turned it into confidence?
Let me give you 3 quick ways to turn your fear into confidence:
- When fear comes up, write it down. I find that often my fear manifests in my body. I can FEEL it physically come up. As soon as I feel my heart beat faster, my thoughts go south and my breath gets shortened. I notice the fear and I don't try to stuff it with wine, or yelling or ignoring. Once I notice it... I observe it and then whip out my notebook (or really any piece of paper!). Then I start furiously writing all the thoughts, feelings and crazy ideas that I've noticed. Sometimes I need to cry to release some of the feelings, but even if I don't, I try to get alllll the things down on that paper and out of my body. For so many years, I stuffed, ignored or drank my feelings into my body. Now I just get that sh*t out! And once it passes, I'm usually all good!
- Decide what it is you want, based on the fear of what you don't want to happen. All of your thoughts have 2 sides to them. Fear (we also call it stress...) shows us what we don't want to happen. And from that, we know that we can decide what you do want. For example, thinking "I don't want to fail" shows you that you want to be successful. Switching to "I want to be successful" is going to be a heck of alot more inspiring than not wanting to fail. Anytime you get caught up in thinking about what you don't want, switch the thought around to what you DO want.
- Ask yourself if this is real, and is it your original thought? This one is big. Consider the fact that all your thoughts aren't actually real. We have so many thoughts per minute, doesn't it just make sense that some of them aren't real? Perhaps that could give you some permission to let some thoughts that aren't serving you go? Or maybe some of your fear-based thoughts are not your own. You could have learned them from your parents or grandparents. Maybe the culture you grew up in had some limiting beliefs built in (I see this alot with people who grew up in communist countries). What if you could release those thoughts that aren't yours and decide to adjust what you owned as your own?
Try these tips and let me know what works for you!
As we continue this adventure in Vienna (which is quickly turning into an adventure in Europe), I'll keep you updated on my fears that come up. For now, I'm good. And I'm about to walk down to a bike shop and buy a razor scooter (for reals, I'm obsessed and everyone has them here!).
Here's to making lots of friends and making lots of money,